I have not been to visit my in-laws since 2006 and it was the best decision for all our sakes. R continues to make the pilgrimage every year because he feels he must, which I am totally fine with. But he does it alone. G has only visited them once and they spent so much time telling her how "not racist" they were that she felt no need to ever go back either. I just can't be around people who are so overtly racist (the stories I could tell...), sexist, and consider us members of a cult because of our religious beliefs. *sigh*